Closure? I don’t know her …

My cut off game is STRONG.

Once I’ve been pushed to the brink of hurt and disrespect, when I’ve said all the things I can say, when my soul knows someone or something is just not FOR ME, it’s nite nite n*cca. I will disappear without a word, blocking all access to me. Doing this, just walking away, can be incredibly hard for me, but it’s as if my spirit truly takes over and puts her foot down. Even if I cry all day, everyday, I stay gone. Because I know my worth and I know that my heart will heal, I just have to kick start the process.

Unpopular opinion: the traditional idea of “closure”—having the TALK with the person who has wronged you—is overrated and misguided.

Imo, TRUE closure is an internal journey. It doesn’t involve the other person. It’s shifting your focus from that person to yourself. It’s accepting the current state of things. It’s processing your own emotions with the goal of finding your own peace, rather than seeking that peace from the waltz between voicing your feelings and the other person’s apologies or words, a dance that will have you stuck in the same toxic loop again and again and again.

My power is not just in my words. It comes from a deeper, more spiritual source than just communication. It’s in my sacred energy. And the loudest message I can send is silence that protects my nervous system and remembers who I am. Silence is my protection. Silence is my remembering.

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“I don’t confront people I don’t want to fix things with.”

— @naszi._